Welcome-

I promise I will give you a proper introduction to our little piece of the internet and give you a glimpse into the wonderful world that will soon be 'SimpleIsTrue.com' but for now, there are great things happening and being designed and created so, please check back often for Marie's posts and mine will begin May 19, 2009.

Thank you and I hope to hear from everyone soon.

-Patrick Xavior

To Begin With...

Ok, so I am relocating my life to another state! Moving is hard. We have to pick up the pieces of our lives, and let's face it- not all pieces are easily moved. Amongst other things, relationships often fall victim to distance. It's hard to be party to a relationship that's good, and watch it crumble due to distance.

I am crazy about someone. And he can't come with me! What do I do? Of course the most logical thing would be to flip out, and tell him never to contact me again, right?

Well, maybe not to a man....but to a woman, in a fleeting moment of time-because every moment of a woman's life is fleeting- it makes complete sense! (I know you women are with me here!) To a man, this is a blow to his never-before-mentioned, or acknowledged, ego.

Well, the story of Marie and Bobby (yes, Bobby McGee), is one that will challenge the most experienced of match-makers and love-experts. There is no end-all, be-all to this relationship. It started in a war zone, and will be explained over time...I'll have to catch you up on this "time."

But for now, let me just say that I'm TERRIFIED! I really did just knowingly attempt to push someone I cared about far away from me.

Now, after a night's rest, and twenty-four hours to think things through, I fear I just made a crucial mistake. The following is my attempt to fix that mistake. Right or wrong? You decide....




"To be true to form, and at the risk of dragging this out- I just want to clarify a few things.

- I can’t imagine my life without you in it. I have no idea what the future holds, but I KNOW I CAN TRUST YOU IN MORE WAYS THAN NOT. It’s the unknown that I don’t trust, NOT you. I’m sorry I can’t seem to communicate that correctly. I tend to act spontaneously at times. It’s a fault, and I’m working on it.
- I obviously write my thoughts better than I speak them. I learn about myself and make changes everyday to better myself. You’ve taught me so much about myself. You are one of my BEST friends, and have seen both the worst and best parts of me.
- I am your biggest fan. I believe in EVERYTHING you do, and I understand your need to get out there and do it! I don’t want to hinder you. I have no doubt that you will do great things and can accomplish anything you set your sights on.
- I know that no one I meet will compare to you. I’m not really worried about you meeting other people because I feel confident of where I stand with you. I believe that somewhere inside, you know that you can trust me. You know I understand you. You know that I would NEVER hurt you. You know that there’s nothing I won’t do to make my way back to you. And if you didn’t know all that, then you do now!
- I will never give up on you. You can avoid my calls now if you want. I know you’re pissed. But, I want you to know that I will NEVER give up on you. I will email, write letters, send random text message- whatever it takes to make you realize that I will never give up on you.
- We have a LONG way to go before we approach a serious relationship. Life is tricky and tends to throw curve balls. But I believe that we have the foundation of something REALLY good and strong. Not many people can say that. If we can find our way through the next couple of years, imagine how good it will feel to look back and see how far we came.
- I can’t apologize for my emotions. I’m very much a woman, and I’ve learned the best thing for me is to tell you how I feel. Because if I can’t tell YOU how I feel, then I can’t tell anyone.
- If you needed me, I would be there for you without a second thought. For me to have said that I don’t want you to contact me couldn’t be farther from the truth. You make me want to be a better person, and I enjoy the motivation your presence in my life offers.
- We don’t have to talk every day, or even every week. I just want you in my life, and it’s the fear of NOT having you in my life that sends me to protective measures. I know you understand pain and loss. And I know you understand the lengths people go to protect themselves. You have the power to hurt me, tremendously. But I know that’s NOT your intention. Nonetheless, I’m human, woman or not, I will go to greater lengths than are necessary to prevent pain.
- I think you’re a really good guy. I’ve only seen good in you. I care a lot about you. Probably more than you want me to. I can’t help that, and I won’t apologize for it either. The thing about a good woman is this: she won’t give up on a good thing. She will sacrifice and remain true to what she wants and what she believes. I want you. And I believe in you. I feel it’s my job to make you understand that. Just as you feel it’s your job to make me feel secure and pay for every meal
- Women are DEEP, and I agree that it can be annoying. But we can’t help it. It’s what makes us mothers and homemakers.
- I hope you can forgive me. I hope you understand. Please don’t give up on me. I'm a work-in-progress."

To be continued...

Marie and Patrick Welcome YOU!

Hey All! It's been awhile. I'm sure life has changed us all, in one fashion or another.

I went through quite the ordeal losing my neice Amber to a parasailing accident in August 2007. My family has struggled to come to terms with the pain of loss. But we're no different than others. We have all experienced loss, and while the experience feels so unique and personal, do you ever wonder how much alike we all are?

I've been to Iraq and Afghanistan. I've lost two of the most precious people in my life (as my blog will explain, I consider Crystal, my surviving neice, a loss as well). And I have SO much to say (not to quote Dave Matthews or anything). But even if we only go down the street, don't we all have a story to tell? I'm inspired everyday by the friends and people in my life. But I'm most inspired by the life that Amber never got to live. The feelings that she was robbed of, and everything WE take for granted.

I'm curious how much alike we all are...so that being said: I invite you all to check out this new blog I created with my dearest and ever-so-talented friend, Patrick! (Marie and Patrick!)

Simple is True. Men are simple, and women are...well, not so simple. But they are TRUE. Simple is true.

Patrick has been my rock for many, many years. Going on fifteen to be exact. He is simple and complex, and SO talented. I am just complex, and NOT ashamed!

I hope you find it to be close to your heart, and can relate to the simplicity of it all. Please check it out...and leave a comment!

I love you ALL!!!